How do you get an obsessive ex to leave you alone? (2023)

How do you deal with a clingy ex?

Do not let your ex have any control over how you are thinking, feeling and acting. Choose what YOU want to think, feel and do. Stop reacting and start being proactive with your own results in mind. Make yourself the most important person in your own story.

Another one of the benefits of ignoring your ex-boyfriend is that you will have the time and headspace to move forward. Since you aren't talking to or checking up on your ex, you will be able to think of what you want to, and you'll have a better chance of knowing when you'll be ready to date again.

Be honest -- just not brutally honest.

Don't sugarcoat. Tell this person how it is, but do so in a way that won't hurt more than necessary. You don't need to get into all the details and list the specific reasons you are no longer interested, but make sure it's clear that it's over.

Why is my ex trying to get a reaction out of me?

This is one of the most common reasons why your ex might try to get a reaction out of you. Your ex will want to see if they can still have an emotional impact on you. They want to manipulate your emotions to make you say or do something without thinking about what you're doing.

Talk to your partner about what has led to this.

Refer to the problems, not the personality. Tell them the reasons why the relationship just doesn't work from your perspective. If you still love them, tell them that, it lessens the pain, but be honest. You are breaking up; you don't have to hold your tongue anymore.

Another thing that your ex will struggle with is that guilt, especially if your breakup was because of something he did. It might not seem rational, but that's just how emotions are. You ignoring him will remind him of the times he did you wrong, and make him feel so bad about himself he'd rather be behind bars.

Accept The Hot And Cold Behaviours

Accept it. Don't force them to come back. You should never want to get back with someone who doesn't want get back with you. If your ex chooses to act hot and cold instead of seeing your potential and giving you another chance, they're probably not the right person for you.

Silence speaks volumes

The best revenge is no reaction. Believe it, the silence and zero reaction really bothers your ex, and they consider it as the best served revenge. Nothing creates more curiosity than silence. Your ex would expect a vent or an angry rant from you, but don't give in.

The dumper and the dumpee, both go through pain, anxiety, fear of loss, jealousy, hate, and reconsideration through different stages. That's why during the No contact the dumper and the dumpee swap the feelings interchangeably.

The male mind during no contact is like a fuse short-circuiting. He's buzzing, frizzing and all over the place. He may feel that you're ignoring him because he's unworthy and begin replaying all the times he's felt inadequate or unwanted. If he has high self-esteem he will easily brush these thoughts aside.

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